Want to quintuple your odds of winning in the dating game?
We surveyed a variety of top experts and learned five unbelievably effective secrets to make the opposite sex come running.
Here’s how you can use them to work for you:
- Be the Center of Attention
- The Color Lure
- Body Talk That Reels ‘Em In
- The Power of a Smile
- Tempting With Scent
Want to be the one who gets noticed? Stand in the center of the
room. According to Dr. Albert Mehrabian, the author of several
books and nationally-known expert in the field of spacial psychology,
where you are in a room (and what you’re doing) has a lot to do with
your ability to attract the opposite sex. Where should you be for the
highest impact and the greatest number of interested cuties?
Smack-dab in the center of the room, standing up and moving around
a bit. (But don’t pace a track on the carpet for goodness sake…)
If you’re in a bar or nightclub, the best place to be is at one of the
corners on the bar. Not only will you meet more people, but,
according to Mehrabian, bartenters tend to gravitate toward the
corners as well. Interesting conversation AND a full drink? You’ll
feel like you’ve died and gone to dating heaven. The worst place
to be seen? Hanging out near the wall or sitting at a table. That
hot stranger approaching your table and asking “may I join you”
only happens in the movies.
What color can you wear to compel the opposite sex to
According to Color Consultant Leatrice Eiseman, Director of the
Pantone Color Institute and author of Colors For Your Every Mood,
women are attracted to men wearing the color blue. And why
wouldn’t we be? According to Eiseman, guys who frequently
wear blue are “stable, faithful, constant and always there.” The
blue guy is a fantastic candidate for a long-term relationship —
someone who’s dependable, momogomous and can match his
And what about the ladies? Eiseman says women should wear
a pink- peach to make themselves most approachable. The
color is “very flattering to most skin tones, it gives you healthy
glow,” and according to Eiseman, projects “a little vulnerability
which brings out something protective in men.”
Want to wear a color that weeds out guys who can’t handle
strong women? Try a deep red, burgundy or plum. Men who
aren’t attracted to strong women will steer clear.
Of all the colors, red is the most sensual. But, wear red with
caution. “Red is the color of sex and power,” says Eiseman.
Red adds an element of excitement and attracts two types of
men – men interested in sex, and men attracted to powerful
women. Sure, you’ll probably have to fend off a lot of freaks,
but you could also end up attracting a guy that isn’t threatened
by the fact that you make a bigger salary.
Concerned your wardrobe is driving people away? Stay away
from what Eiseman calls “squished caterpillar yellow-green”
which is said to repel both sexes equally.
How do you use body language to attract the opposite sex?
If you’re a woman, the key is to make yourself approachable.
According to nationally-respected body language expert and
professional speaker, Patti Wood, you want to make yourself a
“safe” (read approachable) target. How do you accomplish that?
Don’t take up a lot of space (which is a sign of power and superiority.)
Wood says, “we are strong women, but remember, we’re trying to
get a man to come over and talk to us.” She explains, “you have
to show you have room for someone else in your life.”
In addition, Wood says “to be very approachable women should
stand with their feet no farther than 6 inches apart with toes
pointed slightly inward. ” Other key moves, the nod and the head
tilt – signal you’re listening to what the other person has to say.
For men, appearing more dominant effectively draws the attraction
of women. To attract women, stand with your feet 6-10 inches apart,
and toes pointing outward. Feel free to take up some space. For
men who are victims of the “nice guy” badge, or who appear to be
too submissive to attract women, try taking your Y chromosome
out for a spin. According to Mehrabian, men should “try wearing
bulkier or more conservative hairstyles or clothing,” hold your
head up, and speed up your speech and gestures to be more
Body language tips for both sexes: Don’t fold your arms and
don’t chew on gum, ice or your fingernails. According to Wood,
the chewing indicates anxiety or frustration, neither of which
are very attractive emotions.
Psychology and body language experts agree that one of the
most important things you can do to make yourself more
attractive (and approachable) is to smile. Not a great big plastic
game-show smile, just your normal “I’m having a great time and
I’m happy to be here” face will do the trick. According to Wood,
“the smile is the international signal of friendliness.”
Studies show that men associate the scents of cinnamon and
vanilla with love. To make the scents work for you, try baking
some ready-made cinnamon rolls about an hour before your
date arrives, or, wear a cinnamon-vanilla scented perfume
(there’s a fabulous one called “Man Magnet” at
www.stopgettingdumped.com.) Aromatherapy experts have
long-believed cinnamon to be an aphrodisiac. According to
Laura Davimes, aromatherapy and herb expert , and owner
of Herban Avenues, “certain aromatic plants exude oils similar
to our own sexual secretions or pheromones. Wearing
cinnamon/vanilla blends increases the presence of pheromone-like
substances and dramatically increases attraction.”
The scent of a woman? Women, according to a recent study,
are attracted to a black licorice scent. So, be sure to pick up
licorice or Good ‘n Plenty at the theater snack bar. And, if you’re
at a club and happen to spill a little Jaggermeister on your shirt,
don’t worry about the stain, just consider it your lucky night.