When a couple stands at the altar and vows to love each other, “Till death do us part,” they take for granted that they will be intimately connected forever. The kiss at the end of the ceremony symbolizes that connection.
The kiss is the core of a relationship. It is a barometer of how things are going. A couple can be having sex but not kissing. If they are not kissing passionately the relationship is in trouble. Most couples aren’t even aware of when their relationship started changing. What started out as a passionate relationship, over time becomes a friendship. One day they wake up and realize, “Oh, my gosh, we’re roommates and no longer lovers!”
Well I’m here to tell you that you can keep your friend and get the lover back too.
When you give someone a peck on the cheek, that says, “I love you,” but a 10 second kiss says, “I’m still in love with you!”
Of all the homework assignments I give, the 10 second kiss has the most immediate and dramatic effect. If you give it in the morning it sets the tone for the rest of the day and if you give it in the evening it sets the mood for the rest of the evening. It’s not your brother, sister peck on the cheek that feels comfortable and platonic. It’s a passionate kiss that makes you feel warm, close and connected.
I want you to grab your mate tonight and give them a passionate 10 second kiss. When they say, “What’s gotten into you?”, you can tell them, “We are not going to be room mates anymore. From now on we are lovers again.”
Before you kiss, you may feel embarrassed, uncomfortable, tense, annoyed, distant. After, you’ll feel close, warm, and connected.
When we kiss, we are exchanging our breath with one another. When we exchange breath, we are breathing in our mate’s life force, his energy and he is breathing in ours. In this way we become one.