Be Angry and Complain

Given that anger and complaining are not at all erotic, be sure to continue to be angry and complain about the lack of sex. Your anger and complaints are SURE to turn your partner off.

Approach Your Partner Needy

Both men and women tend to be turned off by someone who “needs sex to feel loved and validated.” Most women are not attracted to little boys, so women are generally completely turned off by a man who approaches her as a needy little boy, needing sex to feel validated, safe and secure. The way to continue to be needy is to make sure that you do NOT take responsibility for your own self-esteem.

Give Yourself Up – Be a Caretaker

Completely ignore your own feelings and needs, putting yourself aside and doing all your partner wants you to do instead. By ignoring your own feelings and needs and doing everything you can to avoid conflict, you make sure that your partner has no respect for you whatsoever, which means he or she may see you as an object to be used. The more you are invisible to yourself, the more disrespect and demands you may receive from your partner, which may completely turn you off. In addition, the more you give yourself up, the less sexual you may feel.

OR?..

Be Demanding – Be a Taker

Make sure that you are narcissistic – demanding that your partner attend to you instead of to him or herself. See your partner as an object to service you, and if you do have sex, make sure it is quick to just satisfy you. If your partner does come on to you, make sure you shut down and become resistant. After all, you want to be in control and not be controlled! The last thing in the world you want is to be controlled by your partner.

Attempt to keep your partner occupied with what you want and make sure you are critical, demeaning, discounting, threatening, and ridiculing when your partner does what he or she wants. Be sure to crazy-make your partner by accusing him or her of being selfish when he or she doesn’t want sex, when in reality you are the one being selfish. Keep up the good work! This is how you stay in control.

Be a Couch Potato

Most people, especially women, need some interaction to feel connected enough to want to have sex. Be sure to spend most of your free time watching TV or doing frivolous or mundane things, so that by the time you get into bed and may want to have sex, your partner is too bored with you or too disconnected from you to be interested.

Be Emotionally Unavailable, Withdrawn or Shut Down

Many people, and especially women, need emotional intimacy to feel sexual. You can make sure you have no sex by being emotionally distant. Withdraw, shut down your feelings, and be totally in absorbed in things other than being present with your partner. Be too busy to interact with your partner. Wait for your partner to initiate. Be passive, take no initiative, protecting against rejection instead of taking responsibility for what you want. This pretty much guarantees no sex.

Take No Physical Responsibility

Dress poorly, be sloppy, and make sure you are not in good physical shape – that you are overweight or too skinny. Come to bed smelling badly. Eat poorly and don’t exercise to make sure you get sick often and do not have a lot of energy. Come to bed intoxicated, giving your partner the message that you need to be under the influence to have sex with him or her.

Finally, the real key to never having sex is to do some or all of these things and then deny that they are the cause of your lack of sex! You can continue to be angry and complain only as long as you take no responsibility for the above choices!

I?m sure you’ve been asked this question before. My girlfriend does not want to perform oral sex on me. Is there a way I can get her to change her mind? I mean, ever since the day she told me, I’ve been fine with it. I told her I had no problem with it. And she doesn?t know that I feel this way. I much rather have her do it than not do it. So is there a way to get her to change her mind at all?

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Hello!

You bet there is.

First of all, you need to come clean about your desire for oral sex. Since you’ve told her otherwise (in effect, lying to her) she doesn’t get the opportunity to deal with her own issues surrounding it.

Explain to her that you knew (or sensed) that she wasn’t into it and; rather than creating an issue around it, you chose to tell her a little white lie. Now that you’re relationship is going well you want to start expanding up your sexual scope to include other fun sex like oral sex, etc.

You should also explain to her that while it’s not a deal breaker, you want more variety in your sex and that you’ll help her learn to be really good at it. More important, it’ll be fun!

At the same time, get her to talk about what she’d like to see more of too. Just as you grow your relationship to be closer and better, you need to focus on doing the same thing with your sex life.

As I constantly tell people, bad relationships that have great sex will continue to survive, but good relationships with bad sex almost always fail.

It’s important to have your needs met and to meet hers as well.

Best regards…

Break the Routine:

Is it the missionary position with the man on top? Are the lights always off? Is sex just for the bedroom? It’s the time to ditch the rut and put some zest into your sex. Get a copy of the Kama Sutra, experiment with sex toys (yes, they’re quite acceptable!) and for no cost at all, try a different position in every room in the house.

Think and Feel Sexy:

Great sex isn’t about the orgasm (although they’re great too!). Sexual health is being comfortable with your sexuality and feeling sexy all day long. Stop to enjoy the sexual images all around you. Allow your sexual feelings to rise and linger. Only you will know that you’re taking care of your sexual health.

Express Yourself:

Let’s face it. If you want better sex, then start talking about what you want. Satisfying sex comes from the love and trust expressed between the people sharing in it. If you’re sitting on a mountain of unresolved issues about your relationship, your body image or low libido, it’s time to put the spotlight on it and give it your attention.

Banish the Stress:

Great sex comes from an inner desire to express passion and intimacy. However, currents of intimacy are delicate and won’t find their way through the layers of stress that you’ve accumulated throughout the day. Leave the job, the kids, the in-laws and everything else at the bedroom door.

Work Those Muscles:

Good sex becomes great sex when your body is in a healthy condition. Sex is a physical workout which requires control, flexibility and endurance. And if you suffer from incontinence or weakened vaginal muscles, you’ll also want to include Kegel exercises in your routine.

Ditch the Drugs:

Prescription drugs are bad news when it comes to a healthy sex life. Common drugs for high blood pressure and anti-depressant medicines and can lead to a decreased libido in women. Since most prescription drugs have adverse side effects, it’s best to find a physician who will recommend healthy alternatives to the drug routine.

Lose the Fat:

With over 60% of Americans overweight or obese, all that excess fat between the sheets is not a pretty picture. If you can’t see your genitals when you’re standing up and can’t tell the difference between your breasts and your belly, it’s time to shape up. Not only will the sex improve, your whole life will take on a new look.

Butt Out:

Having a cigarette after sex is a tired cultural image. Smoking is just a bad habit that also constricts the blood vessels and inhibits blood flow to the vagina. And besides, who wants to have sex with a dirty ashtray?

Know Your Body:

Rhythms We’re creatures of habit and we feel comforted by predictable routines. Our bodies also have natural daily and monthly rhythms such as their menstrual cycle. Get in touch with the natural highs and lows of your sexual desire and use the highs to engage in sex and the lows to exhale. Don’t fight the rhythms and force sex; prepare for them.

Eliminate the Distractions:

When an opportunity to engage in sex arises, it should totally consume you… and your lover. Turn off the television, hang up on your mother-in-law, ignore the credit card statement and forget about work. This is your time; don’t let anything distract you.

Read, Watch and Learn:

There’s a lot more to sex than knowing the mechanics of how the pieces fit together. Make your sexual health a priority and a continual learning experience. Read magazines, articles and advice columns – there’s always something to learn. Watch sexy movies and learn from the many excellent educational videos on exploring and enjoying sex.

Make Sex Fun:

Remember when it was? When we were young and discovering the power of our sexuality, sex was fun and we couldn’t get enough. Where did the fun go? Review these 12 tips and pinpoint why the fun disappeared. And remember, the best part of losing something is finding it again.

What is Seasonale?

Seasonale is an oral contraceptive that has two types of hormones in it: ethinyl estradiol, a synthetic estrogen, and levonorgestrel, a progestin (synthetic progesterone). This same combination of hormones can be found in many other pill formulations. The difference is that Seasonale has 84 active pills in a row, unlike normal pills, which only have 21 pills in a row. This means that you have your period only four times a year.
Some people feel that missing so many periods is unhealthy: others claim that it is actually very natural. What is the truth about this birth control?

Seasonale is designed for women who are on birth control who are comfortable with skipping their periods. Women who are on birth control can already skip their periods by choosing not to take the placebo pills and simply going from the 21st day to the first day of a new pack. Seasonale is not that different. Some women wonder if Seasonale will leave them with more hormones in their bodies, and the answer is that Seasonale is a low-dose hormone pill with hormone levels comparable to or lower than most other oral contraceptives.

What happens?

Especially during the first year of Seasonale, a woman might experience break-through bleeding. These could be as heavy as a period, or they could be lighter. They will become lighter until they disappear entirely. However, you cannot simply expect to take Seasonale and have only four periods a year immediately. Some women find that it is simply easier to take regular birth control, because then you know when you will get your period, and you won’t be caught unexpectedly bleeding.

Is it safe?

One argument for the safety of Seasonale is that suppressing your period is healthy. Before the advent of hormonal birth control, women spent much more time pregnant and nursing, and so had many fewer periods than the women of today have. Birth control pills act to trick the body that it is pregnant, and so prevent ovulation (the release of the egg).

Other critics are sceptical of the benefits of skipping your period. Dr. Susan Rako, in her book The Blessing of the Curse: No More Periods? writes that “Tampering with the hormonal climate of healthy menstruating women, including teenage girls whose lives stretch ahead for decades, for the purpose of doing away with their periods is, in a word, reckless.”

Those who believe that getting your period every month claim that the body needs natural cleansing, and that menstruation offers this. Getting your period releases the uterine lining. Some people argue that it helps prevent certain types of cancer, such as cervical cancer; however, a purely causal link has yet to be made.

Whether or not Seasonale is more dangerous than other birth control pills remains to be seen. However, it does carry the same risks as other oral contraceptives. As with any other type of birth control pill, you have a higher risk of certain types of cancer, an increased risk of blood clots and stroke, and other risks as well. Ask your doctor to go over the full side effects of any medication before you use it. You should not take Seasonale and smoke.

Is it a good choice for you?

Ultimately, the decision lies with you and your doctor to try Seasonale. Do you find your periods painful, irksome, and frustrating? Or do you like the monthly reassurance that you’re not pregnant? Consider your lifestyle and what suits you best before deciding to switch methods of contraception.

Why it is Popular

The popularity of this procedure is a direct result of the ease with which it is performed. Rather than making incisions that result in excessive bleeding (excessive in comparison to the no scalpel approach), scarring, and stitches, this method simply leaves a tiny pin sized mark (if any). Instead of cutting a slit, this procedure just opens a hole, separates the tube, and seals the holes made in the tube. This reduces the risk of infection, as there is much faster healing and much lower vulnerability (resulting from open wounds). Additionally, it is much easier to reverse this procedure through a microscopic vasectomy reversal, as there will be less scar tissue to cut through. Finally, though vasectomy prices differ based on who your vasectomy doctor is, this procedure is generally cheaper than conventional vasectomies.

Why it Matters

There is a small vasectomy failure rate, as some do experience a vasectomy problem. This is generally the result of recanalization (the tubes reconnecting spontaneously). Another problem that occurs is infection (but as mentioned, the risk is pretty much eliminated using this approach). Finally, there is the most important factor in getting a vasectomy:

SEX!

Sex is the motivation for vasectomies, as nobody would get one if they didn’t want to eliminate the risk of pregnancy. Sex after vasectomy procedures can be just as fulfilling as ever, but the first few times, men will experience pain. Additionally, vasectomies cannot always be reversed. However, it is possible to have a pregnancy after vasectomy reversal (if your body can handle the reversal procedure). The benefit of the no scalpel approach is that it opens the opportunity for a vasectomy reversal in the future. It is important to know that you can experience a vasectomy and still have a pregnancy. The reason is that good sperm will still exist (in lower quantity) after the procedure. Even though vasectomy effectiveness is very high, there is still a small vasectomy failure rate. To reduce this risk, always have a follow up exam.

Alternatives

Before going though with this operation, it is important to analyze every vasectomy alternative. Most of the alternatives involve birth control and condoms, but because the operation can’t always be reversed, it is something you should think about. Finally, there is also the option of having the female partner undergo tubal ligation or “getting her tubes tied”. The reason this is not recommended, though, is because women have a much greater chance of detrimental side effects than men do with the equivalent procedure. Keep this in mind as you consider this operation and, remember, it’s better to not have sex than it is to have a life changing operation that you may regret.

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Relax

Premature ejaculation often results from performance anxiety. Try oral sex, toys, fingers, and passionate kissing to build her passion. If she’s sufficiently excited before intercourse she won?t need as much time to reach orgasm.

Take care of yourself beforehand

Premature ejaculation sometimes occurs because guys are too fired up. The slightest bit of action sets them off a bit too soon. Relieve some pressure by masturbating before the big event. Not right before because getting erect immediately afterwards might be difficult. A few hours before should do the trick.

Wear a condom

Decreasing sensitivity helps prevent premature ejaculation. One way to make the penis less sensitive is to cover it with a rubber. They’re also good for protecting against STDs and unwanted pregnancy, so why not let a rubber help with premature ejaculation, too. Never put on more than one at a time thinking that thicker is better. It?s not.

Other desensitizing products

Specially-formulated creams containing topical anesthetics can help numb the penis and put premature ejaculation suffers at ease. Be careful though. Don?t accidentally numb your partner without her permission! Once the penis numbs, wash the cream off. Another option is to cover the cream with a condom. Just be sure the cream doesn?t contain ingredients that will cause the condom to weaken or break.

Think about something else

Careful with this one! If you think of the wrong thing, premature ejaculation may end up being one of several problems. Self-inflicting pain on another body part, memorizing mathematical equations, or creating images of unattractive women have helped some guys, but results do vary.

Steer clear of alcohol and drugs

Tuning in to your body and feelings can help you control premature ejaculation. When you?re in an altered state of mind, tuning in becomes difficult.

Do your homework

Several techniques have been developed that help men control the timing of their ejaculations. Mastering techniques such as the ?pinch? method, or the ?start-stop? method help men identify and focus on the moments that precede the ?point of no return.?

Don’t give up on sex! These techniques and others have helped many men overcome the embarrassing and frustrating condition called premature ejaculation.

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Have you ever felt like your sexual patterns are preventing you and your lover from experiencing sex as blissfully as you know it can be?

Does the prospect of having sex sometimes seem too daunting just because of a history of unsatisfying experiences?

Changing your sexual patterns may be a burning issue for you, a passing curiosity or perhaps you know someone that could benefit from this information.

In any case I am sure you will find the following informative and interesting.

Slow down.

It may seem obvious, but the number one way to make sex last longer is to do everything slower.

Breathing, feeling, foreplay, kissing and intercourse are all parts of the sex act that do not need to be rushed.

Give everything time.

Every moment in sex is worth experiencing fully.

Let things unfold in their own time and you will be rewarded with richer experiences during sex and more learning and satisfaction from sex.

Deepen your breathing.

Our breath connects us deeply to our body and its rhythms, as well as the rhythm of other bodies near us.

Focusing on breathing also helps to quiet the mind and sooth any internal dialogue that may be interfering with our natural enjoyment of the sex.

Here’s a hint, try synchronising your deep slow breathing with your partner’s.

Let go of expectations.

Without expectations around sex, we are free to more naturally savour the experience ? however it is!

We can be more open to the experience and learn more as a result.

Without expectations we free ourselves from disappointment.

Here’s a trick ? see if you can implement these techniques to improve your sex, without caring whether they work!

Focus on pleasure in sex rather than the sex act or outcome.

Regardless of certain ideas of sex perpetuated in the world, sex is not about the ending, it is about the whole experience.

Getting the girl, having an orgasm, giving an orgasm ? these are all important aspects of sex.

But the most important element of sex is pleasure!

When you start enjoying every moment of sex ? it will go on as long as you want!

Increase knowledge of your body.

Take the time to understand what brings you pleasure and learn how to pleasure yourself better. Don’t forget to share your new knowledge with your partner too.

Read up about anatomy. The human body is amazing!

Increase knowledge of your partner’s body.

Don’t be afraid to ask questions and always be open to trying new things in bed. Explore every part of your partner’s body like you have never seen or touched it before.

Every time you engage in sex it is a perfect opportunity to expand your sexual knowledge.

You can learn a lot about the human body by asking friends about their experiences too.

Reframe sex as a nurturing healing act.

When we attach shame and guilt to sex it is no wonder that it doesn’t flow naturally. Adjust your mindset around sex to reflect only positive aspects.

Sex feels so good, how could a gift like this be anything other than healing!

Let go of performance anxiety.

Performance anxiety is unnecessary. Be kind to yourself. Learn to forgive yourself if things don’t go perfectly, and then learn to stop caring about perfect anyway.

Feel your body from within.

Our sensual experience can be deepened dramatically by focusing on our experience from within our body.

Get out of your head and let your consciousness move to the centre of your body.

Be present.

Don’t let the mind wander or engage in pointless internal chatter. Don’t let your fantasies and thoughts take you further from the experience at hand.

Be in the present experience and the present moment.

So there you have it. Any of these tips individually can start to impact on your sexual performance right now. If you learn them all, you will be a master of your body in and out of the bedroom.

Don’t be daunted if it takes a little time though – these are life changing techniques and may take a bit of practice.

And most importantly of course, enjoy yourself practising!!

Love, Mukee

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