Unfortunately, with this bit of knowledge, the presumption is that the masculine minority has no such need and guys are quite secure without such verbal applause. The truth is that, whether needed or not, guys enjoy occasionally hearing such fair words, and they do take root in their souls also bearing fruit in stronger relationships and confidence. Especially valued by men are expressions of approval spoken by their very own romantic better half.

“You can do it!”

Maybe it’s the primal, animal instinct that comes from gallons of testosterone coursing through guys’ bodies, or maybe it’s just the way God made them, but guys usually show themselves fairly confident. It’s just show. Well, not always, but most guys are a little uncertain of themselves from time to time.

It’s tough on the street to find someone to believe in you. You can look, but once you find someone, it might not be exactly the kind of person you want to believe in you. So, for your guy, it’s really nice when his sweetheart really does believe in him and says so. Mind you, it needs to be sincere. Insincere confidence doesn’t go far these days.


“That’s a great idea!”

The moment a wiggly little sperm finds a willing egg, and the chromosomes are right to make a boy, the gates open for a fresh barrage of bizarre and scary ideas to descend upon the world. If your guy isn’t testing ideas on you regularly, check his pulse. If his pulse is strong, maybe someone discouraged his penchant for great ideas once too many times. Guys have lots of ideas. They just do. It’s the way God made them.

Before you panic, isn’t going to really do all these wild ideas; he just needs to dream. However, when his dreams are suppressed so is his soul. Dreams are fuel for a guy’s soul. Your sweetheart needs to put his feet up and think of how things could be, what difference he could make in his world. Critics can and do kill this sensitive nerve in a guy by pointing out the nonsense of it all. Don’t you be that critic. Encourage your guy with these four frightening words: ?What a great idea!?

Here’s where you panic. Your man has to try stuff once in awhile, and it’s a given that not every great idea is going to fly. In most cases it’s won’t be a problem, but sometimes these attempts at conquest can sting a little. Ask yourself what you really want: a guy with great self-esteem thanks to his lover’s support, or one who feels like a failure. Avoid those crushing words, “I told you s….” No, no, we don’t say that here.

“Sure, I’d love to.”

Centuries of tradition across the cultures and the seas have put the task of invitation and initiation between the sexes in the camp of the male. For guys it’s pretty ok that things are this way, because guys like to come up with great ideas, remember? That means everything from dinner at the new Mahican restaurant to a motorcycle trip across Canada to a shower and a romp together depend on the invitation of your sweetheart. Give him time, he’ll refine.

While your man learns the art of more sensitive and romantic ideas, don’t discourage him or even hesitate. Remember, his soul is connected to his ideas and dreams?a tender place for a man. The more he feels your heartfelt acceptance and enthusiasm to run with him, the more fun you’ll have. Besides, I’ve heard Mahican fare isn’t bad.

“Geeze, you’re good at that!”

Two things guys long for which our world is reluctant to give: significance and recognition. Neither is costly and neither has any negative side-effects. If you’d like to help someone grow in virtually any sphere of life, pour out lavish love, praise and affirmation. Countless proverbs and even a short life have taught us that you catch flies with honey, not vinegar so why is it fashionable to correct other’s erroneous ways through disapproval? Someone started this fad centuries ago and I see it lived out everywhere I travel. What I don’t understand is why we withhold affirmation when our honey does something right? Think of how great it would be.

“Don’t worry. It will be fine.”

Life has gone wrong. Again. Remember the donkey, Eeyore, Winnie the Pooh’s friend for whom nothing goes right? His constant lack of luck sort of colored his personality and made him quite lovable. Maybe there’s a guy in your life like that. If you’re not sure, perhaps you don’t know many guys. Life goes wrong, and guys have a skill for suffering and torturing themselves. I think it’s a religious thing regardless of religious persuasion. For some reason, guys feel they deserve life’s misfortune, and if misfortune doesn’t find them, they create it for themselves. Our pain probably subconsciously buys points somewhere.

“How interesting. Tell me more.”

To be known is a most other-worldly sensation. More bizarre yet is to be known, accepted and even loved. How many people know you and all of your secrets? You don’t need many fingers to calculate that, do you?

If your guy is past his mid-twenties, statistically, he’s likely made all the really close friends in life that he will ever make. If he has one close friend who really knows him and accepts him, he’s doing really well. Life doesn’t really deliver much in the way of others who know us intimately and accept us. We can wish all we want that things would be different, but it’s not likely to happen. The only way we can singlehandedly change our part of our world is by taking an interest in others, listening and knowing them. You’ll notice a pleasant change.

Do you want to see your sweetheart be at a total loss for words, fall off his chair and roll on the floor laughing? Next time he starts to tell a personal story, simply put your elbow on the table, place your chin in your hand, lean forward and say, ?How interesting. Tell me more.? Try it. It will be fun. More than that, your guy will melt for being known.

“I knew you’d do the right thing.”

Our world forces us to fragment. You need to be one person on the job, another at the club and someone altogether different at home. After awhile you begin to forget who you are. Unfortunately, our values are challenged and integrity is often compromised. That’s what fragmentation results in? – lack of integrity. We’re not one integrated person any longer but many, and as much as we hate it, we end up representing ourselves and our values dishonestly. Most people want to be honest and represent themselves for who they really are. Most people want to be real – the same person to everyone. However, in our fragmented world that has become quite a challenge.

A guy can be much more firm in his integrity when he knows his sweetheart believes in him and shares his values. He’s not standing alone trying to do right in the face of a world that demands so much wrong. Your convictions and belief in him does more to strengthen his character than anything.

Words have power to effect change like nothing else. Words of affirmation, acceptance and love are so much easier to say and powerful than critical words. The source of applause for your sweetheart is bottomless. Use these simple words of affirmation liberally!

Why Hesitate to Buy Flowers?

It’s inconceivable that anyone would hesitate to buy flowers when nearly everyone can remember the last time they received flowers, even if it was thirty years ago. Flowers make that powerful of an impression. Flowers are living. They fill the senses, with color, scent and emotion. They change the atmosphere of a room and are noticed every time you walk by.

Can Flowers Make the Wrong Impression?

While some gifts can be inappropriate or mis-interpreted for their intension, flowers are more versatile. You can give flowers to your sweetheart, wife, sister, mother, grandmother, boyfriend, neighbor, employee, boss and even someone you wish was your sweetheart with no regrets. You can always give a gift of flowers to show appreciation, friendship or simply neighborliness.

Where we live, in Moscow, Russia, flowers are a solid tradition to bring when invited for dinner, and even though they’re so commonplace, they never fail to wow the one receiving them. Flowers open the heart, melt the ice and make an unmistakable statement of affection and appreciation.

Flowers never arouse jealousy because they’re a gift that is absolutely pure. I remember when my brother brought flowers to my fiance the first time he met her. I thought it was incredibly kind. The flowers melted her heart, and I was absolutely impressed by his class and sensitivity. What a great first impression!

Of course it must be said that flowers make a wonderful apology. Leaders of the world would do well to send flowers to their adversaries. World peace would reign.

Flowers Aren’t Only For Women

Is there a masculine floral arrangement? I think all flowers can be masculine. Yes, you can send a guy roses. He won’t wonder what’s up. He’ll simply receive your affection and love you forever. If you have a problem with sending a guy flowers, there are plenty of alternatives. All florists have great green plants, small trees, flowering plants and bonsais. How about blue roses for something wild? Any one of them will be received with gratitude.

What’s the Occasion?

That’s a question you love to hear! Why? Because you can answer, ?Oh, no reason!? That says volumes. Of course don’t miss the holidays such as Valentine’s Day, birthdays, anniversaries and Mother’s Day. You need to order several floral arrangements on Mother’s Day for all the mothers in your life.

Don’t forget those people you know who might be overlooked. Draw them into your world with flowers. However, flowers can make an even greater impact of love and affection when there is absolutely no occasion attached. Order flowers just because.

What’s The Appeal?

Flowers feed the creative soul in the giver and receiver. Both sending and receiving flowers is living art. Flowers are an expression of the heart of the giver that transcends words. that’s why we give flowers, because the colors, shapes and living motion say things which words or even a note card could never say. You can send a card, but it’s likely only read once or twice. Yet, flowers exclaim their messages for days. Every glance sends another nuance of love, appreciation and affection that can be expressed in no other way.

What’s the Problem with Ordering Flowers?

Perhaps this is where the fear of ordering flowers lies. Guys, especially, think they need some special skill or knowledge to properly order flowers because it’s a creative thing. Not so. You can get expert help from a florist to choose an arrangement that’s perfect. Today, there is no reason you can’t order on-line and select exactly what you want and have it sent overnight or if you’ve procrastinated, same-day. On-line ordering takes only a few moments and is incredibly secure and easy.

What kinds of Flowers to Order?

That’s easy. Variety. I’ve heard it said, ?Don’t order roses on Valentine’s Day.? Why? Because it’s what’s anticipated. Flowers should be a pleasant surprise, so mix it up and order what’s in season. Try different colors of roses, such as yellow, pink, salmon or even mixed. Try different arrangements of seasonal flowers and discover the magic of variety and surprise.

In the west, you can pretty much order any number of flowers?a dozen, eighteen, twenty-four or even three roses. Keep in mind that in the east, such as Russia and former Soviet states, you don’t want to order an even number. Order only odd numbers of flowers, as even numbers are for funerals.

How to Handle Flowers

If you’re buying a bouquet from your local florist, plan to get your flowers to water fairly quickly. Often, the florist can put the stems in a little tube of water to buy you some time. If you’re not going far, an easy tip is simply to hold the flowers with blossoms down allowing gravity to do it’s job for the fifteen or twenty minutes it takes to get them to a vase of water.

Order Only Quality Fresh Flowers

Don’t order artificial flowers. It was in style once, and it will hopefully never happen again. Whenever possible order direct from the grower because you insure the freshest possible flowers with minimal handling and damage. Flowers can be delivered from the grower very inexpensively.

Take a Minute to Get Prepared

When ordering on-line, have the address and phone number handy of the one to whom you’re sending a floral arrangement as well as a short message that you’ll include. Also have your credit card nearby with the billing address. Order a day or two ahead of when you’d like your flowers delivered. For a Friday delivery, order on Thursday.

Building a Relationship Builds Confidence

When you order from the same growers each time, you learn their offerings and routine. You come to trust them and know what you’ll get with no surprises. Visit our page, Colors of TheRomanticWay, for further flower bouquet ideas.

Send Flowers Today

Why not begin a tradition which you’ll never regret? Order flowers for someone now and see how it feels.