What really helps you out here is that women like to talk, and they love to give advice – especially to “helpless” men! First of all, pick a good Laundromat – meaning one where you’ve seen lots of attractive women who aren’t dragging a bunch of kids with them or wearing wedding rings. Basically, pick one in a neighborhood with lots of young, single women – they’ll be using the Laundromat close to home. And don’t worry if you already have a washing machine at home, it’s worth the trip out and a little change to meet women! If you meet someone that eventually makes it back to your place and discovers you have a machine at home, just tell her it was broken, or better yet, be honest and say you went to the Laundromat hoping to meet someone, and that was the best decision you ever made because you met her.

But let’s back up, first you’ve got to meet her! So go to the Laundromat with your basket of clothes – no detergent. Make sure you don’t bring anything a woman might find disgusting – like really dingy, holey underwear, badly stained T-shirts, or socks that used to be white but now look like you walked through mud in them. However, something slightly stained won’t hurt – like a grass stain on your jeans or chocolate sauce on a shirt. You can use this later to help with the conversation

Go in, plop your laundry basket down on a machine near one or more ladies you wouldn’t mind picking up, and start digging through the basket like you’re looking for something. Then say out loud to yourself, “Oh, man, I forgot the detergent!” Laundromats usually have a vending machine selling detergent, so go over and start browsing. Act like you don’t know which one to pick, then go to the woman you want to chat up and say, “Excuse me, they don’t have my regular detergent here and I don’t know what to use. Can you help me pick one out?” Women can’t resist an opportunity to give advice, and they love the idea that men might be helpless when it comes to some chores, like laundry. This is where, if you’ve got the grass stain or whatever, you can bring that up and say you don’t know what to do to get it out. She may come over and show you how to rub detergent on the stain, etc. After you get the detergent, go back to your machine, fumble around, and go back to her and say, “I’m sorry to keep bothering you, but these machines are different than what I’m used to and I don’t know what setting to use. Could you give me a hand? I’m sorry to seem so helpless.” Milk the helpless bit for all it’s worth. Ask her how much detergent to use, what colors you can wash together, and what temperature to set the water at – whatever you can think of.

Also, if the Laundromat doesn’t have a vending machine for detergent, ask the woman if you can borrow some of hers. Insist on paying her back by paying for her washing or dryer use. Either way, once you’ve got her talking, keep chatting about clothes as long as that stays interesting – once it starts to get lame and boring, ditch the topic! Make sure and introduce yourself and get her name, then start asking her about herself. Find out where she works, what she does for fun, what movies or bands she likes, what her favorite types of food are. You can use that info as she’s packing up her clothes to leave – Say, “Thanks so much for the help. I’d love to pay you back by taking you out for some Italian food (or going to hear that band you like, or see that movie you said you’d been dying to see.)”

And one last thing, be ready with an explanation of why you’re using this particular Laundromat if it’s not in your neighborhood, just in case she asks. Make sure you pick one that’s not too far from home, and just say the one in your neighborhood was full and you didn’t want to wait for a machine. Now grab some change, a pile of dirty clothes, and get ready to bag that babe!

Now, go up to the woman you like (if she?s with a friend, either your buddy can try to pick up her friend or he can play wing man and keep the friend occupied while you hit on your babe) and say, ?Excuse me, but we?re trying to settle a bet and we really need your help. We have agreed to let you settle the argument, and we?ll abide by whatever you say.? Now you?ve really got her attention, because she?s dying of curiosity to know what the bet is, and she?s flattered that you?re putting her in charge of casting the deciding vote for the argument. Then ask something like, ?Ok, my buddy here says Marsha was the oldest daughter on The Brady Bunch, but I know she was the middle one.? Your pal can jump in here and say, ?No way!? You don?t have to use The Brady Bunch, just pick some show that was a huge hit within the last 20 or 30 years that people still talk about and joke about, and that?s still played in reruns on TV. Don?t pick anything obscure ? go for something that everybody knows the answer to.

Other choices might be shows like ?Cheers,? and you can bet that Norm was the name of the postman, while your friend thinks it was Cliff. Just pick something that for your age group and where you live, everybody is going to know the answer. If you pick a current show it won?t work as well, because it will seem like a set up if you don?t know the name of the biggest star on the biggest hit show on air now. But people do jokingly argue about things in older shows, and the nostalgia value of a show you loved growing up can get you ? and the girl you want ? laughing at the memory.

So now she?ll say something like, ?I hate to break this to you, but your friend is right. Marsha was the oldest daughter.? Act a little shocked or let down, like, ?Ah man! Are you sure? Well, all right, a bet?s a bet. It looks like I?m the one buying the next round,? you say this last part to your friend, making sure to smile and shake your head, maybe patting him on the shoulder ? real friendly and casual. The woman?s probably laughing about the whole bet over a cheesy TV show ? but that means she?s also entertained and enjoying herself. Now turn back to the woman and say, ?Thanks for helping us out, we could?ve argued that all night. Seriously, we are that crazy! Let me pay you back, what are you drinking?? When she tells you and you order the drink, say, ?Do you mind if we join you?? Since you?ve already made her laugh with your funny bet and you?ve bought her a drink, she won?t refuse a seat at her table. Make very sure that while you?re ?arguing? the point with your friend before you talk to the woman in the first place that you don?t mention specifically what the bet is about ? someone else may overhear and jump in to offer the answer, blowing your plan.

The great thing about this conversation starter, though, is it can work lots of places ? it doesn?t have to be a bar. You can do this in a coffee shop and offer to buy a cup of coffee, you can do this in a fast food restaurant and say you owe the pal a beer or a coffee, then ask the ladies to join you (this may mean moving on to a coffee shop or bar, which is just fine!), and you can even do it in a park. There you?d say the bet was for a drink or snack of some sort from a street vender (if there is one in the park), or that you were heading to the coffee shop around the corner, and get her to come, too.

The next question is, now that you?ve got a hottie sitting down with you for a drink, what do you say now? Easy ? check out ?Conversation King? for step-by-step guidelines on how to keep the conversation flowing and bag your babe!

Somewhere it?s especially noticeable (and vital, if you want to be successful) is in the game of attraction and seduction. For a man to pick-up a girl ? that is: find, approach, talk to her and arrange to take it further ? he MUST understand and be able to use persuasive psychology. And it?s that fact many men are surprised by when they hear it ? that being successful with women isn?t a God given talent or a roll of the dice; it?s a skill like anything else. Today you?re going to learn a little about that skill. We?re going to look at a special persuasive psychological technique that, when used, massively increases your chances with the ladies. It?s called ?The Add-On Principle?.

Picture the scene: You?ve got talking to a girl and been chatting for a little while. You can tell she?s enjoying the conversation and think that she?s quite attracted to you, too. You decide you?d like to make something happen with this girl and see her again real soon but you aren?t sure of the best way to go about making that a reality. You don?t want to ruin the positive dynamic that you?ve worked so hard to create and you definitely don?t want to scare her off or get rejected. So, what can you do? Well, first of all, what do most guys do when they?re in this situation? I?ll tell you, they take one of three routes:

Route #1: CLICHÉ„ NUMBER REQUEST.

The first route has been taken so many millions of times in the past that it?s nowadays almost an act of parody ? it?s asking the girl for her number. Taking this route is, 9 times out of 10, a Plan B at best. When you ask a girl for her number you not only give her control of the situation (which means she can very easily say no or slip you a phoney number), you also highlight that moment of the conversation as what it really is: an attempt at picking her up. When she realises this, she?s turned off. No girl likes the idea of being picked-up because it seems sleazy and dangerous. For a girl to allow herself to be picked up, it must feel natural and unforced.

Route #2: GOING FOR IT.

This route?s most often taken at night, in bars, clubs and parties ? namely because the availability of alcohol makes this option seem a good idea. ?Going for it? means a guy will try to kiss the girl or cop a feel a little while after talking to her. Perhaps he?ll do it while they dance or as the venue is closing and they?re leaving. Again, it?s a bad idea because it makes the girl feel used and not in control.

Route #3: BOTTLING IT.

This option, quite simply, involves choking at the last second ? being unable to go through with a ?closer?. The conversation?s gone great but the guy just doesn?t feel confident enough to propose meeting up again or something along those lines. As you can imagine, taking this route is a bad idea in regards to being successful with women.

So what do you do? The three routes above are bad, so what route can you take? Well, it goes without saying that you HAVE to run the risk of using a ?closer? if you want to see the girl again. Therefore, your goal is to make your offer ? in whatever form it might take ? seem like a natural, obvious, fun option for the girl to take. To achieve this, you should justify what you?re suggesting with a REASON you should both do it. For example: ?Let?s swap numbers so we can talk about that book we both like.? Or, ?We should get a coffee or hot chocolate some time, because I know a great little place that?s just opened and think you?d really like it.? When you follow up an offer (such as swapping numbers or going for a coffee) with a reason for doing it (to talk about something or because you know a nice little new place) you make the offer seem ATTRACTIVE and a NATURAL thing for the girl to say yes to. This is the essence of ?The Add-On Principle?. When you employ it, try to always use the words ?So? and ?Because.? Our minds, when we hear these words, associate them with good reasons, they back things up for us in our heads.

You can use this principle any time you want a suggestion you?ve made to a girl to be accepted and agreed to. For example: ?Shall we go over and look at the jukebox, so we can put on some tunes we both like?? You?re taking away any hard work the girl needs to do in deciding whether or not she wants to go ahead with what you?re suggesting, simply because you?ve already given her a valid, natural-sounding reason to say ?YES!?

Try it?you?ll be amazed at the results.