He wants you to dress up for him:

A long, long time ago, your husband bought you some lingerie. Remember? You wore it once or twice, then stuffed it deep in the back of a drawer. Well, the time has come to dig it out. Consider dressing for his tastes and not just yours once in a while. When you dress for him, he takes it as a sign that you still care enough to make the effort. Men are visual creatures and get a lot of sexual mileage out of what they see. So, some sexy lingerie will go a long way to rekindle the passion you share. Surprise him by slipping into something he will find exciting. And, there is something about lace, ribbons, feathers, or not-so-subtle sheer material that drives a man wild. And honestly, who can blame him? Plus, when you indulge in sexy lingerie, do not get too hung up about your appearance or stretch marks. Movies and fashion magazines may make women feel they must have taut tummies and look model-perfect, but men say they appreciate real women with foibles and imperfections. And personality counts! Your insecurity will rob you and your husband of precious moments together. So, when your husband says you look beautiful and sexy just the way you are, believe him. Dust off the lingerie and fire up the candles.

He wants you to initiate lovemaking:

If your husband is always the one to start things up, eventually he’ll wonder, ‘Why doesn’t she ever initiate lovemaking? Doesn’t she want me anymore? A man wants nothing more than to know he’s sexually desirable to you – that you want him like crazy. Guys chronically complain that they always have to initiate sex. When you take the lead, you’re explicitly telling him that you love to spend time with him – it immediately eliminates the guesswork for your guy. What’s more, when you approach him, you’re in the driver’s seat. Too many women let men call the sexual shots between the sheets. Being the initiator gives you an opportunity to set the tone and the pace.

He craves for sexual affirmation:

Men have insecurities too. They may never tell anyone this, but they are secretly vulnerable. How does a woman help change the insecurity to confidence? Affirmation and compliments! To men, affirmation from their wives means everything! So, be explicit in letting yoUr husband know what you enjoy. Men, love those kind of directions. It’s affirming for a man to know that you think he’s a great lover. When men receive regular and genuine positive attention and compliments from their wives, they tend to become much more secure and confident in all areas of their lives.

He wants to be your hero:

What part of a man most enjoys being stroked? Answer: His ego! Show your man that you really need him. Men, just like women, simply need to be wanted. Regular, fulfilling sex is critical to a man’s sense of feeling loved and desired. Plus, remember to compliment your spouse on being a great husband. It’s a quick shortcut to making him feel wanted, needed and loved. And this positive reinforcement of your husband’s good behaviour will yield big dividends later, as he subconsciously tries to live up to your glowing appraisal. Here’s another secret: Pamper him sometimes. You can set a day to give him a massage, set up a hot bath, etc. What makes such royal treatment so romantic to a man is the way it reassures him that you appreciate him and that you’re proud of him. Many women today don’t realise how vulnerable men are and how much they need love too.

He wants passionate lovemaking:

Men love passionate women. Men want to be desired and loved. Letting them know that you’re passionate about them will turn them on every time and pave the way for great lovemaking. Women who are great lovers put energy in from start to finish. Plus, displaying tons of enthusiasm encourages your man to bring you to new heights. The more you get into it, the harder he’ll work to please you.

He loves unexpected touches:

Yes, it’s true. The slightest touch from you can bring a man to his knees mid-sentence. In other words, let your fingers do the talking. Even those quick bicep rubs when your man gets back from the gym, or those errant shoulder squeezes, can send your man over the moon. While coffee is pretty good, your gentle peck is really the best part of waking up. It’s as if out of the blue, you were so overcome by his breathtaking cuteness that you just had to give him a cuddle. And men adore your tender touch in the bedroom as well. Because contrary to popular belief, guys aren’t just looking for fast-track orgasmic manoeuvres in the dark. They want and need intimacy, touch and passion too..

He wants novelty:

Once a couple has been together for a while, they often develop a sexual routine. It’s not always a negative thing as it is usually mutually satisfying. So what’s the problem? There could be a new technique that one or both of you like but haven’t discovered yet. What to do? Mix things up a bit. If the bedroom is your primary lovemaking venue, why not steam things up in the shower? “And it’s worth adding some variety to the old ‘he does that, then you do this’ choreography. Swap things around or throw a new position into the mix. Make sure monogamy and monotony don’t become synonymous. The trick for a married couple is to maintain a degree of novelty, by providing variety in activity, location and type of stimulation. Many men find that experimenting with positions, styles and acts takes on a new importance as they age. They say that variation not only keeps them aroused, but it satisfies different cravings. Better sex isn’t necessarily wilder sex, after all. There are things you can do to spice up sex once in a while.

He is excited by your sexual intensity and assertiveness:

When you openly tell him what you desire and what feels good, you instantly put yourself into an active role as opposed to a responsive one. Verbal feedback is crucial to your pleasure. It helps to develop your own sexual language. Some women can’t talk dirty. And that’s okay. You should try to find a new way to let your husband know what feels great in a way that’s comfortable for you. It might be words, it might be moans, but figure out how to let him know you’re loving every minute of it or at least which minutes you’re loving.

He Calls for No Reason

“Hi, what are you up to?”; “I thought I’d let you know I made a reservation for dinner as I said I would and it’s at 8 o’clock like we agreed” are the kind of comments that give away the real motive for this kind of call; he misses you; is head over heels for you and; can’t go one more second without speaking to you. While you talk he ignores all incoming calls and signs off “I can’t wait to see you again.” Give him extra points for thoughtfulness if he calls you at work and is sensitive enough to realise you can’t chat so he says “I won’t keep you because I know you’re busy but I just needed to hear your voice.”

He Turns Up On Time

When he says he’s going to be there on the dot at 8pm, he’s never more than a few minutes late. And on the rare occasion he is held up he pays you the courtesy of calling so you don’t have to needlessly rush to get ready. This kind of punctuality might seem an insignificant thing – but it speaks volumes about his respect for you. It shows that he cares about what you think of him so he wants to demonstrate he’s reliable.

He Tunes In To Your Every Word

When you’re in a mid conversation at the cafe he doesn’t play with the fork nor is he distracted by the conversation at the next table. His eyes barely leave your face because he is hanging on every thing you say. He doesn’t dominate the discussion by interrupting, finishing your sentences or taking the conversation in a new direction. He is genuinely listening! It is clear in the way he laughs sincerely when you tell him something funny and responds to what you are saying by giving you is opinions on the subject, making helpful suggestions and sharing his own similar stories.

His Friends Know All About You

And it’s not just the usual body talk like how gorgeous you are or what bra size you wear. They know what car you drive, what you do for a living, that you love japanese food but can’t drink red wine because you get a rash. It’s not like thay’ve been asking for these details – it’s just that he can’t stop talking about you 24/7!

He Brings Up the “F” Word

Not that one – the other F word – fidelity. Just when you’re worried that he might think you’re dating with no strings attached he says “I want to be clear what we’re doing here – I want us to be boyfriend and girlfriend and to me that means being faithful to each other. Do you feel the same way?” With an enormous sense of relief and elation you say “yes” to being his girl and as you kiss passionately and each pledge fidelity, your mutual trust and intimacy immediately grows. It’s official: He considers you a couple.

He Takes an Interest in Your Interests

When a guy falls for you in a big way he’ll want to know everything about you and that includes a full understanding of your likes and dislikes. If your hobby is collecting retro furniture he’ll have the good grace to feign interest when you spend all afternoon scouring second hand shops – although he’d rather be home working on his car. Don’t worry – he’s not becoming a “yes” man – he’s simply trying to get closer to you in every part of your life – and sharing your interests is an obvious way to do it.

He Gives You a Key to His Place

Not only does this gesture shout “I trust you” it also shows that he’s certain you’re going to be in the picture for a long time to come. Men are often very protective about their domestic domain. They may hold off taking a new girlfriend to their flat in case she thinks the decor is daggy or starts thinking that maybe he’s hinting he’d like her to move in when that’s the last thing on his mind. In light of this, being given the key to his place is like passing an intimation ceremony – now that your relationship has graduated to the next level he is letting go of his bachelor ways and saying “what’s mine is yours”.

After Sex He Wants to Cuddle and Chat

No rolling onto his side the second he climaxes and no quick descent into snoresville after a perfuntory cuddle. Instead, the afterglow of sex is charged with emotion, touching and intimate disclosures. He wants to know if you had a great climax and wants to tell you how the earth moved for him as well. Chances are he’s already desiring to make love to you again. Or if he’s too tired to he’ll hold you, stroke your face and nuzzle your neck while the conversation is incredibly intimate.

He’s Nice to Your Friends

From the moment he met your friends he made an effort to remember all their names. Now that you’ve been dating a while, he’s considered one of the gang. He talks to your pals about everything from boy troubles to cramps and makes an effort to say all the right things. He’ll also hassle your shy single friends to get up and dance with the two of you so they can enjoy a spin on the floor without feeling like fair game. Don’t presume that being such a SNAG is his second nature – any man who makes an effort to win over his girlfriend’s posse wants to keep her happy and to be around her as much as he possibly can.

He Asks for Your Opinion

In just about every decision he makes – from which shirt to wear to a job interview to which kind of car he should buy, he solicits your opinion. This indicates that he respects what you have to say and that he believes you not only have good judgement but have skills, abilities and insights that can help him, improve his life.