Here are 5 ways to be a gentleman on a date without being labeled a Neanderthal;

1. Pick Her Up. Whether you’re on your bike, walking, taking the subway, riding in a cab or being chauffeured in a limousine ? pick her up. It’s a nice thing to do. If she’d rather meet you and is fairly insistent on it, then it may be, like with a blind date, that she’s not yet at a comfort level where she’d like you at her home. You should respect that wish.
2. Have a Plan Beforehand. Nothing is worse than sitting around trying to decide what to do. If you’re having trouble, flip through the paper’s restaurant reviews, pick one and make a reservation. Simple as that.
3. Tell Her How Nice She Looks. The words ?you look lovely? or anything along those lines should be out of your mouth within the first five minutes of a date. No excuses.
4. Open Doors. Open her car door and the restaurant door, but don’t pull her chair out unless she is clearly standing by it and waiting for you to do so. Otherwise, if she’s not expecting it, you could wind up in an awkward chair struggle.
5. Pay, or At Least Try to Pay. Most women will admire and respect your offer to pay. If she offers to help pay, insist again but do not get into a struggle over the bill. If your date is very insistent on paying her share then let her do so, but at least try first. Also, if you were the one that asked her out, you should never expect her to pay.

1. Keep your cards close. Whether it’s on the first date or before, keep your personal secrets to yourself. You barely know this woman and now is not the time to be spilling your heart out. She’s not your therapist, so let her get to like you before she sees the ‘dark side,’ or at the very least your video game collection.
2. Ask first. You’re not going to get dates waiting for women to walk up to your desk and ask you out. Ask first and be specific. If she says no to dinner at eight on Sunday but instead suggests Saturday, then you know she’s interested. If she doesn’t offer up an alternative time, then you’ve given her the chance to politely refuse and let you know that she may not be interested.
3. Have a plan. You’re the man, so be one and pick the restaurant. No one likes sitting in a car asking ?I don’t know, where do you want to go?? Most women will appreciate your decisiveness and when you get to the second date, she can choose.
4. Pay, or at least offer to pay. Some women will prefer the dutch method of dating, but almost all women will at least appreciate and respect your offer to pay. If she offers to split the bill, insist again that you pay, but if she offers again then she is obviously more comfortable going dutch and you should respect those wishes.
5. Be a gentleman. Tell her that she looks pretty, ask her if she’s enjoying her dinner, be interested in her conversation, and make sure she gets home safely. Whether or not the date works out, you will at least have been nothing short of a perfect gentleman.