Rejuvenate your Relationship

Cucan Pemo — Sun, 15 Jul 2007 19:44:40 +0000

Maybe you’ve been dating for a while and you just need to spice things up a bit. Every relationship needs a boost every now and then, but not everyone knows just how to do this so that both partners are happy again. Some relationships die because the partners believe that there is no way to revitalize their relationship – but that’s incorrect thinking. There are plenty of ways to put the spark back into your relationship.

Try something different
It’s seems a little simple, but trying something different in your relationship is the best way to overcome a ‘boring’ time and start anew. Try a new activity or go on a vacation together. Talk with each other and find out what you’ve always wanted to do – and then do it. Take a class together or try a new restaurant. It doesn’t have to be complicated.
Take time away
Go off and try your own activities for a weekend or a week. When you take the time to re-find yourself in the relationship, you can bring a new vigor and life to the staleness. Too often couples want to share everything with each other, but this doesn’t always increase the fun in a relationship. You get into ruts and habits and you forget that you both have your own interests. And when you’re off exploring your own ‘things,’ you’ve got more to talk about and to share.
Change your look
As superficial as it sounds, there is something to the phrase, “Fake it ’til you make it.” Why not try to be the more exiting couple that you want to be by dressing the part as well? Try a new look or a new hairstyle in order to change the way that you look to your partner. We always seem to get into ruts when we’re in a couple because we think that once we ‘have’ someone, we don’t need to impress them anymore. Surprise them!
Do something out of the ordinary
Bringing a woman flowers might see cliché¤¬ but it still works to create romance in a relationship. And don’t do it on an anniversary or some other expected occasion – do it for no reason at all. If you can, send them to her workplace so that she gets a lot of attention. She’ll love it.
Make dinner
Again, it seems like the oldest ‘trick’ in the book, but making a meal for your partner or spouse is a great way to create a sense of newness to a relationship – especially when you don’t normally do it. When you simply take the time to think about what someone wants to eat as well as creating an atmosphere that supports a loving environment, it’s more than just a meal; it’s an expression of your love.
Get out of town
Something as simple as heading to a flea market is a great way to rejuvenate a relationship – especially if it’s something that you haven’t done before. When you get away from your normal surroundings, you aren’t able to sink into your normal habits. Try to get away from your home or apartments at least once a month to keep your relationship strong and healthy.
Hang out with your friends – apart
Just like spending time alone, you still need to keep in contact with your circle of friends. When you start to lose contact of the people that you knew before your partner, you can feel like your entire life is devoted to your partner – and that can be stifling. You want to hang out with the guys a few times a week because it reminds you of the person that you are. Your friends won’t let you change for your partner – and your partner doesn’t want you to either.
Travel in a car
Some people will say that traveling together is the biggest test of a relationship, but it’s actually a great way to rebuild a faltering one. When you have to direct yourselves to a new place, you will have arguments, but in the end, you’re accomplishing a goal together – and that makes anyone feel good.
Take a class for couples
Most community centers have classes that involve couples. Think about dancing or trying a new sport together. Not only will you have to work together as a couple, but you will also be learning something new.
Show that the person is important to you
Too often we let our lives get in the way of our relationships, when it should be the other way around. No matter what, be sure that you show your partner every day that they are important to you – that step alone can keep your relationship healthy and you both happy.

12 Ways to Show Your Partner You Care

Cucan Pemo — Wed, 07 Mar 2007 03:00:00 +0000

There are hundreds of articles and websites devoted to making sure that your partner knows that you love them. However, many of these articles are filled with trite expressions of love that seem cliché¤ when they’re overused. To really show your partner that you care, you need better guidelines and better advice. Here is some advice that you can actually use.

Make coffee/tea in the morning

When you’re both waking up in the morning, one of the first things on your minds is probably some sort of drink to get you going. One of the best ways to help get your days off to a great start is to make coffee for your girlfriend or wife. Without having to go to the lengths that breakfast in bed goes to, you will show that the first thing in the morning that you think of is her.

Do a little cleaning

After making coffee in the morning, why not straighten up a little before you head to the shower or to wherever you need to go? You don’t have to get out a scrub brush, but taking the time to throw the dishes in the dishwasher and scoop the litter pan can be helpful.

Notice things that are missing

One of the ways to really impress a woman is to do something without being asked. When you’ve running low on toilet paper, be sure to run out to get some. Running low on milk? Stop at the store on the way home. This shows that you are committed to making your lives run smoothly.

Ask if there’s anything that you can do

Many women have mental lists of things that need to be done every day, but will only let you know about them when the list becomes too long. Instead of waiting for the argument that follows, why not ask if there’s anything you can do? It saves both of you time and makes a woman feel appreciated for the things that she has done in the past.

Fill up the gas tank

Something that you many guys might not think about is a woman’s car. Most women hate to fill up their gas tanks – especially when they’re heading to work or when it’s raining or snowing – so why not fill it up for her when you notice that it’s low? It’s simple and certainly something that will be appreciated.

Write something

You don’t need to be a professional writer in order to show a woman that you care about her. But when you’re giving her a card for some occasion, be sure to include your own words in it as well. Women sometimes like to save cards and will cherish the words that you wrote over anything else.

Try to make day dates

Because you’re both busy at work, you might want a little break from time to time. Why not make a date in the middle of your work days? Meet for lunch or for dinner once per month to break up your routines and remind each other that there is more to your lives than your paycheck.

Get to know their friends

A woman’s friends are a representation of the way that she is when you’re not around. If you want to understand her, try to get to know her friends. Your wife or girlfriend will appreciate the way that you show that you care about other important people in her life.

Get to know her family

Just like her friends, a woman’s family is the group of people that came long before you. Even if you’re not the best fit for their tastes, try to find some common ground that you can share.

Ask if something’s wrong

When you notice that something is different about your partner, don’t ignore it. Ask if anything is wrong and let her know that you are willing to listen to her and help her if you can.

Remember anniversaries and birthdays

There are plenty of calendar services that can remind you of important days, so there’s no reason that you shouldn’t be bringing an appropriate gift or bunch of flowers when she’s expecting it.

Celebrate the everyday

Realize that anniversaries and birthdays aren’t the only times that you can celebrate your relationship – why not surprise her with a short note or a small wildflower every now and then? Expense isn’t the point – it’s the expression that matters.

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